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Talk for August

August 17, 2009 by D. Gardner Leave a Comment

I was given the assignment to speak in Church on August 16, 2009.

I have gone through to modify this from the original to reflect some of the changes I made As I spoke.

As I was sitting on the stand I realized I have been studying for this talk for over 7 years.

As I was reading over Elder Snow’s talk “Get on with your life” I noticed a difference with this talk.  I know it is about adversity.  While there are many talks on adversity this one takes a different approach to the topic. It speaks more about getting ready prepared and pushing forward into adversity, than the usual how to endure and triumph over adversity.

I realized from a young age there must be opposition in all things.  I learned that gravity is the opposition that keeps us alive, but is also what makes our mortal bodies get old, our hearts weaken, makes our skin sag and eventually kills us. Strangely I discovered that without the constant opposition of gravity we would die much sooner.  This was discovered, as astronauts went into space, in only a few days the heart stops working as hard and pumps 20% less blood and Muscle mass loses about 5% a week. In less than two years the human body would atrophy and die. I think that is amazing that is the constant opposition of gravity is keeping us alive.  There is great lesson to be learned from this and I think is the essence of what the talk it about.  We need to get ready and be willing to meet adversity head and Get on with our lives.

Elder snow speaks in his talk about trials we know are in our future and we try to prepare for these trials.  Missions, Marriage, School and Children.  While we can prepare there always seems to be things we have never anticipated.  I remember after a hard week on my mission, having to deal with not knowing the language, the hot humid weather, no running water and no electricity.  I remember reading a the church magazine “The friend” in the Zone Leaders apartment.  It showed a picture of a group of young men 10 or 12 years old with the caption below “Preparing for a mission” They were all smiling.  I said out loud to my companion.  They have no idea what they are in for.  Being able to prepare for adversity you know is coming always helps us to endure the trial, especially by ourselves.  However, the adversity that hits us in the face at some random Tuesday afternoon are, at least in my life,  the most difficult to deal with. These are things like, sickness, accident, unemployment, disaster and church callings.  I see a significant difference between these two.  In the preparable adversity.  Many times you can manage by yourself because of preparation, but the Random Tuesday Afternoon adversity is usually less likely to be handled personally and many times requires others to help.  As members of the Church of Jesus Christ we should be willing to help.  In a talk given by Elder Henry B. Eyring in April 2004, he quoted a his district president as saying ”When you meet someone, treat them as if they were in serious trouble, and you will be right more than half of the time.”  Elder Eyring thought that was pessimistic, however looking back he can see how well that district president understood the world and life.   There was a great talk given by Bishop Edgely in the priesthood session of the last conference on how we need to give extra effort to helping our members who are out of work find jobs in this tough economy.

I doesn’t matter what trial we are called to bear there are things we can do to prepare.  There are all the Sunday school answers, fast, pray, read your scriptures, and Attend your meetings.  I think one of the most important things in helping to deal with adversity is being able to recognize the influence of the holy ghost in our lives.  In my teen years I would hear people talk about feeling the spirit but I wasn’t really sure what is was.  It wasn’t until I was in the MTC where one of the teachers told us how to know when we were feeling the spirit.  He said the MTC is like the temple the spirit is always here.  He said it is quiet and subtle.  He I can feel the spirit it is here right now.  He then said we are just going to sit here for a few minutes and feel it.  It was there that day and I realized I had felt it many times before. I had felt it the day  was baptized.  I had felt it when I had attended the temple to do baptisms for the dead.  I had felt it as a priest when I blessed the sacrament.  Though out my life since then I have learned to identify the spirit.  I have learned when I am making a decision that is the way I need to feel about what I am doing.  I have also made decisions where I have made choices where the spirit had pulled away letting me know it was not the right choice and I have suffered because of the bad decisions.   I have learned when I feel the spirit I feel good I know things will out well I feel like I can accomplish anything.  When I make bad decisions I feel the spirit withdraw, I also feel, fear, hopelessness and despair.

I also want to talk briefly on the reasons why we face trials.  I think Elder Faust quoting Dr Authur Wentworth Hewitt in the Oct 2004 states it best “First I don’t know, Second we may not be as innocent as we think. Third:  .. I believe it is because [God] he loves us so much more than he loves our Happiness.”  Either we are suffering because we did something wrong or God believes we are prepared to grow.  In any case it’s our fault, but God Loves us and wants us to come closer to Christ.  I believe the most dangerous situation we can be in is to have no trials; we get weak and our testimony atrophies.  Because of the trials I have experienced over the last several years I feel I am much better equipped to identify and help people in need.  However, I would also like to add these difficulties have tested my faith and will to keep going.  I am seeing why we need to be prepared to have the oil in the lamps of our testimony full.  I just hope the Lord will bless me and I will be receptive.

While reading the Book of Mormon over the past couple of years I have attempted to study how people deal with trials and how God helps during the trials.  I try to see if there are parallels in my life.  One of the most interesting trial stories is the one with Zeniff, Noah, Abinadi, Alma and Limhi. I see a couple of trial stories.  The first one is Noah as a wicked king.  The people were bad sinned against god and were put into bondage.  There are other types of bondage in our day and age. But nevertheless bondage.  Many times we caused the bondage to come upon us? God is eventually merciful, after the people suffer, get humble and repent.  This story should give us all hope.  If we do things wrong God may pull away blessings but he will not withhold blessings forever, if we repent and seek to come closer to our Savior. Second is the trial of Abinadi, He did what the lord commanded him and he was killed.  This brings to mind the part of the hymn “Come Come ye saints” “And should we die before our journey’s through happy day all is well.”  Then the third story is Alma and the people that followed him.  These people were the most righteous of all the groups, however they were the most tormented.  At first they organized themselves into the Church of Christ and then were warned to leave the land of Nephi.  So they left and were doing all that was right.  Then the Lamanites found them.  It is interesting to note the Lamanite army found them as a result of the army chasing the people of Limhi after they had been delivered from Their bondage.  From my perspective this doesn’t sound fair.  The less righteous get delivered first and then those that were righteous were made to suffer worse persecutions than the less obedient.  I have studied that story several times mostly to see how I may be treated.  I am not dead yet so I don’t believe I am super righteous.  I know I have made some mistakes, however none of them are as serious as the people of king Noah.  I hope I am like the people of Alma that are trying to do what’s right and just have to endure the trial.  One thing I have also learned from this.  That The Lord will end trials pretty quickly.  It took about a week to free the people of Limhi an then for Alma it was over in one night.   Through all of these trials the Lord is just trying to get the people closer to Jesus Christ.

I believe our attitude in getting prepared to deal with trials is important.  Too often when I am thrust into a trial situation I have a bad attitude.  I am more quickly realizing I am having the bad attitude and realize I need to push forward with faith.

In the talk by Elder Snow he talks about Robert Gardner Jr.  He is not a ancestor of mine, however I think he is a ancestor of Elder Snow.  He had some trials in his life and when he thought he had over come his trials he was talking with his friends and they were saying it is good that you have been able to overcome your trial of being broke.  He then said he was afraid he would have to endure more.  Sure enough, within a couple hour people coming from a conference in Salt Lake told him he had been called to settle Southern Utah.  I like the quote “I looked and spit, took off my  hat and scratched [my head] and thought ‘All Right’

It is interesting to notice the difference in the situations for Joseph Smith the Prophet

In 1838 in the Liberty Jail he petitions the Lord for help. “Where is the Pavilion that covereth thy hiding place.” Help us out here

In 1842 he writes to the saints in Nauvoo.  In D&C 127 “…But nevertheless, deep water is what I am wont to swim in. It all has become a second nature to me; and I feel, like Paul, to glory in etribulation; for to this day has the God of my fathers delivered me out of them all, and will deliver me from henceforth; for behold, and lo, I shall triumph over all my enemies, for the Lord God hath spoken it. “

Conclusion,

I invite everyone to prepare for you trials and “get on with your lives.” Learn to recognize the spirit and help those that are struggling.

(as an addendum, I actually recieved more feed back about this talk than any other I have given.  I don’t know if it is because I have been in the ward awhile or if I just was able to be more in tune and deliver a better talk?  This is actually the second time I have spoken in this ward and someone reminded me I spoke on adversity then too.  I am wishing in vain, but maybe I have learned all I need to learn about trials and I can get on with my life. 🙂

Filed Under: History, Journal Entry

Start writing a book

August 14, 2009 by D. Gardner Leave a Comment

I read some advice today that suggested people start writing a book.  Get up an hour earlier every morning it suggested and write a page.  After a year you will have 365 pages, if you miss a few days you will have at least a 200 to 300 page book.  I also communicated with brother Mike about it.  He said he a documentary class that suggested you write about anything for 20 to 30 minutes a day.  He said it got a lot easier to write by doing that.  So this is the first of many random posts that may help me direct my focus on what to write about.

I thought about writing about my experiences with skimboarding.  Over the past couple of years I have also thought about the story, or screen play for a science fiction story.  Then there is the book I would also like to write about motivational compensation, getting employees to act like owners, motivating correct principles.  I could also write a small book on music.  As sit hear thinking freely about what to write I think about being a scout master and working with youth and boy scouts.  Maybe I should write a book about how cool my wife is.  I could write a book about how cool my kids are too.

last night I was talking to mike about a book or maybe it was  pod cast he was listening to about business.  It talked about people getting into business and hitting a lull, the lull between beginning and real accomplishment.  He also talked about sometime the lull is really just a cul-de-sac that you may be in and not realize you are going around and around not getting anywhere while it is draining your resources and will to live. He also talk about falling off a cliff and that some businesses just fall off a cliff for one reason or another.  However at the end of the conversation Mike talked about years ago, in High School, where an olympic athlete had spoken to a couple of our friends.  He told them being an olympian is in your genes.  No matter how hard you try you can’t be an olympian, it has to be in your genes.  Mike tied this to his pod cast and the cul-de-sac theory.  The author indicated we all need to find that one thing we can be the best at, The one thing that genetically we were gifted with to be the best, the best in the world.  That is what we all need to find.

I have though about a concept like this for awhile.  There are many things I a pretty good at, but I always wanted to find something I am the best at, and with all the superhero movies, the one thing that I feel is my superpower.  I was asked that one time on a resume.  “What is your superpower” I put down, without much thinking “helping people.”  I think my cryptonite is ego, “I want people to think I am cool.”  I have this inner struggle about wanting to anonymously help people and then on the other hand be well know for my helping people.  That is quite the paradox.  However at this point I prefer the anonymity.  My wish is that I could have tons of money and just spend all my time helping people without them, or anyone else knowing.

Well it looks as though I am nearing my first writing session  I will list, for myself the book adventures I may pursue.

Skim boarding
Science Fiction
Motivational Pay
Wife, Kids
Super Power.

I will pick up tomorrow and see where it leads me.

Filed Under: Book Topics

Cash for Skimunkers – Great idea!

August 12, 2009 by D. Gardner 1 Comment

CashForSkimMunkers_FW

Filed Under: Journal Entry 2013

New Debit Card Picture

August 12, 2009 by D. Gardner Leave a Comment

Wellsfargo has given people the opportunity for some time to put there own pictures on debit and credit cards. I decided today to put something together for the card.  I put this together in a about 20 minutes.  This is just my first attempt.  I have a couple other cards I will do also.  WellsFargoRiverSkim3_fw

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Pray for Rain

August 10, 2009 by D. Gardner Leave a Comment

(Diclaimer – if you are not a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints you probably will not understand this. If you need more explanation you will need to go find a member of the LDS church who regularly attends and ask them to explain)

Now with the disclaimer out of the way. I attended a stake priesthood meeting last night. There were the usual topics, service to others, scouting, Duty to God and be a good husband, father, leader. But then at the very end of the meeting, the stake president, as part of his talk announced that he had been praying and fasting to see if we could going together as a stake to fast and pray for rain. I guess this had been on his mind for 4 or 5 months. The area has been a drought now for a couple of years. And with this summer at over 50 days of 100F+ the situation is getting pretty drastic. I have even noticed the local water has started to taste different. But the stake president, President Hollingworth, received the inspiration to go ahead an announce that the members of the stake could join together, collectively, to pray for and have a special fast the first fast Sunday in September for rain.

All I can say is get ready for the miracle.

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